12 / Jun / 2021

How To Include Your Fiancé in The Wedding Planning.

How To Include Your Fiancé in The Wedding Planning: When your fiancé took the step of asking you to marry him, he thought about everything, when to ask you, which ring you would love, and even the words he would say to you. But one tiny detail might have slipped out of his mind after you said yes, there is a wedding to plan. Dealing with a fiancé who does not want to have anything to do with the planning process, or you can see yourself soon in that situation, we have some tips for you.

Let us start by saying you should not ask for his help because from now on, you are partners, and you should share equally the tasks. It would help if you also considered how you feel about it. For example, if you want to control most of the aspects of your big day, you should not be bothered by the little participation of your fiancé.

1. Remind your fiancé, it is his wedding too.

While weddings are often considered the bride's big day, they celebrate a marriage, which includes both of you. Always keep that in mind and remember it throughout the whole process, especially when you feel overwhelmed. Your partner should make decisions with you, go to meetings, and interview potential vendors.

2. Ask and listen to his opinion.

Planning your wedding without your partner has its perks. You have total charge of all the decisions, and there is no need to agree on anything. But if you are looking for support, you need to fully commit to listen and respect the other person's opinion. If you pretend like you care but end up choosing what you prefer, chances are he will lose interest soon. And for those matters, you prefer not to listen to his opinion, like your bridal style or accessories, leave him out.

3. Be clear.

When you say phrases like, "you should be doing more" or "I am the only one planning the wedding," you are not communicating your needs and feelings. It would be helpful to approach it by saying: "We decided to marry, and I am not an expert wedding planner, but I am doing my best. I need you to get involved in the process and help me choose the wedding venue or talk to the catering service to ask them about the packages and prices."

4. Delegate with love.

We need to face the fact; weddings are exciting for brides and rarely for grooms. That is the main reason they step back when picking flowers and a color palette. But you know your fiancé better than anyone, and you can use that to get him involved in the process. For example, if your partner loves food, put him in charge of finding a catering service. If he is all about numbers, ask him to manage your budget and payments. If, on the other hand, you know he cannot tell apart white from blush, leave him out of choosing linens and stationery.

5. Enjoy.

Wedding planning is never easy unless you are an expert wedding planner, which most couples are not. So be aware of the challenges you are about to face and embrace them with love. Whenever you feel overwhelmed and want to run out the door, remember how you felt when your fiancé proposed; all that went through your mind as your hand was shaking in excitement, and you could barely articulate a word. Being engaged and finding true love is a blessing; if you were able to get to this point, wedding planning would be a piece of cake.